Middlessence | Questions and resources

Books and podcasts:

• Learning to Love Midlife: 12 Reasons Why Life Gets Better with Age - Chip Conley

• The Big Leap: A Guide to Transcending Personal Limits, Overcoming Fears, and Unleashing Your Authentic Greatness for a Better Life - Gay Hendricks

• From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life - Arthur Brooks

• The Second Mountain: How People Move from the Prison of Self to the Joy of Commitment - David Brooks

• Breaking the Age Code: How Your Beliefs About Aging Determine How Long & Well You Live - Becca Levy

• Awe: The New Science of Everyday Wonder and How It Can Transform Your Life - Dacher Keltner

• Podcast: Midlife is a chrysalis, not a crisis - Rich Roll & Chip Conley

• Retreat: Modern Elder Academy

Questions to consider:

• Who are you without your business card?

• When was the last time you felt like a beginner?

• What are you NOT doing right now that you wish you could?

• If the first half of your life was building your resume, what would it mean to approach the second half of your life as if you were creating your eulogy?

• Ten years from now, what will you regret if you don’t learn it or do it now?

• What are three pieces of advice or wisdom you might offer someone younger and your origin story for each that illuminate your ‘wisdom fingerprints’?

• What is important to you right now?

• Who are you living for?

• What are the things that brought you to where you are today but no longer serve you going forward?

• Is perfectionism or impatience getting in your way?

About Middlessence

Middlessence is a term that refers to the middle stage of life, typically between ages 45-65, marked by significant life transitions and personal growth. It's similar to adolescence in terms of the profound changes that occur, but happens in midlife.

Key Characteristics of Middlessence

• Questioning of identity and life purpose

• Career reassessment or transitions

• Shifting family dynamics as children grow older

• Greater focus on personal wellness and health

• Increased desire for meaningful relationships and experiences

Common Experiences

During middlessence, many people experience:

• A desire to leave a lasting legacy

• Renewed interest in personal development

• Changing priorities and values

• Enhanced self-awareness

• Search for deeper meaning in life

Growth Opportunities

This period offers unique opportunities for:

• Personal reinvention

• Exploring new passions and interests

• Deepening relationships

• Contributing to community and society

• Developing wisdom and perspective